Bivša novinarka in lastnica PR-agencije se je na otok preselila maja 2020. Danes dela približno pet ur na dan, zasluži okoli 58.000 evrov na leto in, kot pravi, ima veliko bolj zdrav odnos do dela in življenja.
»Lahko bi zaslužila več, a želim živeti. Zdaj, ko sem sama sebi šefinja, lahko vsakomur, ki se do mene obnaša grozno, mirno rečem, da naj me pusti pri miru,« pravi Amanda Moss.
Prelomnica pri 48 letih
Odločitev o selitvi je sprejela v trenutku obupa: »Bila sem nesrečna in sem se vprašala: Je to res moje življenje? Imela sem 48 let in sama sebi sem rekla: Dovolj je!« V tistem času so imeli otroci 24, 23, 21, 19, 16 in 11 let.
Na Cipru je povsem spremenila življenjske navade, izgubila skoraj 26 kilogramov, začela je redno telovaditi in vlagati v svoj videz. Danes mesečno za botoks, manikiranje, trepalnice in fitnes porabi približno 460 evrov. Amanda pravi, da si takšno življenje zasluži. »Vse življenje sem se počutila debela in grda, zdaj pa sem v vrhunski formi in imam več energije kot polovica mojih vrstnic,« pravi.
![Story from Jam Press (Mum Ditch Kids)Pictured: Amanda Moss.'I left my SIX kids behind in the UK to start over abroad – men do it all the time so why can't I?'A mum who left her six kids behind to "start over" says that other women shouldn't be shamed for doing the same, as "men do it all the time".Amanda Moss left everything – including her husband and high-earning job as well – when her business collapsed in the UK.She saw an opportunity to "start again" abroad, so she ditched Liverpool and jetted off to Ayia Napa, Cyprus, to replicate her former success there.And while people slammed her for being a "terrible mum", she has no regrets.In fact, the 53-year-old believes more mums need to start being "selfish" and leaving their families behind."I see so many women shrinking to fit into society's expectations and losing their identity," the published author told What's The Jam."Reclaim it."Stop worrying about what others think."As long as your kids are loved and secure, then other people's opinions mean nothing."People love to slam women, especially online."I've been told I look like 'a woman with three kids from three different dads'."There's no accountability for the dads that f**ked off – at least we stuck around."It's just a misogynistic attitude towards women, especially those who are strong and don't fit into the box that people want mothers to be in."[People] feel uncomfortable [with that]."It's time to flip the script; make men responsible for their failings and stop piling it all on women."Amanda, who went from earning Ł120,000 per year to Ł50,000, left in May 2020.She also lost four stone and had a series of cosmetic procedures.Her top tip to "break free"? Embrace the resentment.She said: "Sit down and talk with your kids to see how they feel."If they've noticed you're unhappy, like mine did, they may support the move."You aren't abandoning them; when a relationship breaks down, one parent has to leave."Usually, it's the man."We don't stop being a mum, but we can begin to be ourselves again to make us better people in the long run."There will be resentment for being pushed into the situation and a lot of guilt for leaving."But you'll grow."Never stop communicating with them; let your kids know you're present in their lives constantly."And finally, live without regret."It's an unnecessary energy that drains you."Kids adapt and thrive seeing their mum happy, rather than crying most weekends."Amanda, whose kids [not named for privacy reasons] are aged 24, 23, 21, 19, 16 and 11, is now onto the next phase of her transformation: finding a man.While she's already dabbled in a few Cypriot men, including those in their 30s, it's proven a tricky task.She said: "All men are disappointing and emotionally unavailable s**t bags."I haven't been on a date in almost two years."I would like to find Mr Right, but my standards are very high and I won't settle for breadcrumb affection."When I'm clubbing, they come up to me and say: 'You're a proper MILF, ' it gives me the ick."I think I'm swearing off men for good."Amanda, who wrote a book called You're Going to Die So Do It Anyway, says women "don't get old, they get wiser".She added: "I'm not a carton of milk; there's no sell-by date on me."People need to mind their own business."If they're not paying my bills, then they have no say on how I live my life."I'm free – and it's about time other mums find that freedom, too."ENDSEDITOR'S NOTE: All press are kindly requested to include a mention of Amanda's book, You're Going To Die So Do It Anyway, somewhere in the copy.Video Usage Licence: (EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained an exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request.Video Restrictions: None.,Image: 1026750271, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: EDITOR'S NOTE: All press are kindly requested to include a mention of Amanda's book, You're Going To Die So Do It Anyway, somewhere in the copy.Video Usage Licence: (EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained an exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of th, Model Release: no](/media/2025/08/11/760138/Orig-profimedia-1026750271-1000.webp?1754901928)
Številni jo kritizirajo, otroci jo podpirajo
Vseh šest njenih otrok živi z očetom v Veliki Britaniji, a jo redno obiskujejo med šolskimi počitnicami. »Ljudje me včasih označijo za neodgovorno, a moji otroci me podpirajo. Naučila sem jih, da živijo po svoje, ne po pričakovanjih družbe,« pravi Amanda. Po njenem mnenju se ženske ne bi smele žrtvovati samo zato, ker to od njih pričakuje okolje. »Moški takšne stvari počnejo ves čas, zakaj ne bi smele tega početi tudi ženske?« dodaja.
Amanda Moss poudarja, da ni zapustila svojih otrok: »Še vedno smo v stiku, a sem nehala uničevati sebe in začela misliti nase.« Njen vsakdan zdaj vključuje jutranjo vadbo, ure na plaži, popoldansko kavo s prijatelji in večerno druženje oziroma zabavo, navaja Daily Mail.
»Življenje je dar in treba ga je vzeti v svoje roke. Zdaj si želim le še, da se zaljubim v bogatega, postavnega moškega, naveličana sem dela,« je povedala.
Knjiga kot sporočilo ženskam
O svoji izkušnji je napisala knjigo z izzivalnim naslovom: Umrla boš, zato to naredi – življenje brez strahu v 40. in 50. letih. V njej poziva ženske, da si povrnejo identiteto in nehajo skrbeti glede tega, kaj si mislijo drugi: »Dokler so vaši otroci ljubljeni in na varnem, tuje mnenje ne pomeni nič.«
